I’m reading a book, The Girls from Ames, and though I’m not ready to review it just yet… it has got me thinking.
The book is about a group of girl’s from Ames, Iowa who have sustained a 40 year friendship.
It’s a book about how a friendship has survived all the trials and tribulations of life. One of the ladies in the book, Jane, said that the friendship has lasted all this time because they lived far enough away that they never felt like they were in competition with one another.
It got me thinking about growing older.
I’ll never again be in my 20’s.
I’ll never have the chance to relive those years.
I don’t want to look back at life and that about what I should’ve done.
I should’ve stayed in college.
I should’ve saved more money when I had the opportunity.
I should’ve lost my weight a long time ago.
I should’ve passed on that extra donut.
There are so many things I should’ve, would’ve, could’ve, but you know what. I didn’t.
When I’m 40 looking back on my 30’s I don’t want to look back on a bunch of regrets.
I want to know that I enjoyed life and the decisions I made.
As long as I’m healthy,
As long as I have good people in my life,
As long as I’m happy,
nothing else should matter.
This book is making me see what really matters in life. It’s not how much I weigh, what size clothes I wear, how many people think I’m pretty….
It’s about the relationships I form.
I want to be the best mother,
the best friend,
the best daughter,
the best sister…
those are the things that matter.
And those things have nothing to do with what I eat, what I weigh, or what I look like.
It’s time for me to stop focusing on the outer me, and start focusing on the inner me.